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5 things I didn’t know about having a kid

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I don’t know who took the chocolate from your bag mommy

1. The phrase “sleeping like a baby” is apparently a sarcastic comment, because sleep interrupted by nagging and crying is hardly restful, neither is sleep that can only be achieved when people tiptoe around you, avoiding noisy toys like they are in a low budget spy movie.
2.  Babies are quite expensive – I knew they weren’t cheap,but I didn’t expect my monthly “baby budget” to rival the cast of Jersey Shore’s “tan budget”, it shouldn’t, should it?
3.  A one-year-old can cause roughly the same amount of havoc as a rock group on tour, in less time. Seriously I can put Aidan down in the family room, go to my bedroom, put down my bag, come back and all heck would have broken lose; he unpacks things, throws and pulls things off, climbs in to things…at any given moment it can look like a toy store has set up a badly organised pop-up store in my house – and I know he is not the only one, many a child I know can take a room from “show house quality”  to “I promise I’m not a hoarder” in no time.
4. Kids have multiple personalities… Aidan will go to lunch with his dad, eat a few chips, colour-in, play in play room- awww sweet. He will go to lunch with his mom, throw a few chips on the floor, eat his crayons, get on the table, squirt juice out of his juice box – uhmmm same kid?
Or he will sing along to nursery rhymes with me and repeat phrases, but when I try to get him to do it when someone else is in the room he makes me look like I have a vivid imagination and all he can say is goo-goo gaga.
5. Kids change everything you thought you knew about having kids, every eye roll at a noisy kid on a plane, every judgemental thought about kids throwing tantrums in a shop –  your views will completely change…in fact if you have ever as much as thought “My kid will never….” or “I will never let my kid…” chances are you are about to eat those words along with whatever half eaten slightly soggy treat your kid decides to “share” with you (you shouldn’t say no to a baby offering you something apparently- yummmm)

Aidan’s room, the joys

I think I’m being outwitted by a 13month old…

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Aidan with his limited vocab is already shaping up to be a precocious little thing who catches me out like:
– When I pointed at a picture of a car in a book and asked him what it was and he said…page (proof on instagram)
– Or when I catch him at the plug socket after warning him countless times and he turns to the plug socket, hits it and says DON’T (sure…. the socket played with you, not the other way around) – his don’t sounds like doughn
– When I catch him with something he is not supposed to have and he hands it to me “taa mama”  like it was his plan all along
– Or the awkwardest out of the lot, when you take off his nappy and he makes fake pee sounds psssssssssssss then laughs
– He hits me and says “don’t hitting” I don’t know what this is about, think he thinks it’s a game because I tell him “we don’t hit” – sounds like doughn hittin
– He doesn’t eat very well-super fussy-but does love to feed me and then says “mmmmmm nom nom” (what he calls food) while indicating I must eat it, uhm no u eat it little man!!!
– He tells me to “come” if he wants to feed and has told me “don’t” or “no” if he doesn’t like the song I’m singing to him – He however sings along to any and everything
– and Monday night he proceeds to take off one sock and is struggling with it while saying “put on” (he makes it sound like one word puttin) I try to help him put it on  and he cries blue murder turns out you need to “puttin” the same foot as the other sock his right foot needs to be freeeeeee
WISH ME LUCK, hehehe

How do you raise a gentleman

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How are jerks made? Everyone knows a guy who just radiates “I’m amazingness”  a guy who bullys,badmouths and generally just thinks the sun shines out of his behind…how are guys like that made? And how can you avoid your precious Lil angel basically turning into a douce?
How can you ensure your kid knows he is special and amazing and can do anything with his life while remembering that he is in fact not better than everyone else and the world doesn’t owe him anything?
I want Aidan to respect his elders, to take care of those less fortunate, to have a good heart and basically NOT be full of himself…
I don’t want him to be a racist,a bigot, and quite generally an idiot.
I know that as his mom I don’t have full control of his personality but I guess I will just try to do my part, like not laugh if he makes fun of anyone else, not encourage him putting anyone down, I’ll try to make sure he knows a diverse set of people and not be afraid to reprimand him if I see him acting the fool.
Mostly I will just pray for him and try my best… luckily he has some great men,like his dad and mine, to look up to and that is a good start.

I have a 1 year old people

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Aidan is a year old people!!!!! Where did time go?! I don’t have pics from his party yet, but will load asap, a friend made this collage so you can at least have an idea of what went on J
 
 

APPEARANCE:  He is looking much more toddlerlike these days and is a “boskop” like his mom (head of unruly curls for non South Africans) 

PERSONALITY:  He is such a joker, it’s actually weird to see someone so little with so much personality, he fake coughs, fake sings and fake eats all to get a laugh – my little performer

 
HE CAN NOW: point out body parts and say quite a few words, he calls me mummy and robin is Daaa, and will say when he is “done” or wants you to “come” and can say a few family members names and even calls himself “Aian” on occasion. He can climb most anything but is still not walking

LOVES: He loves drawing and unpacking oh and climbing into things like drawers, the fridge, etc. you need to keep a close eye on him at all times

DISLIKES: EATING!!!!  —– yes this one still stands

MOM: Is sooooo proud of her little person
 

New point of view

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When a specialist recently told me I needed to lose weight it hit me like a ton of bricks, naturally I’ve known this for a while because even with his hefty fee he wasn’t telling me anything the mirror and my dwindling wardrobe were not…
but it’s different when a doctor tells you, more official! This isn’t the snarky lady from work, the inappropriate family member or the “helpful” friend, this is someone with enough letters after his name that he MUST know what he is talking about.
Even though my GP, “condoned” me snapping at said specialist for his indelicate remark, and commented that his assessment, though accurate (I could stand to lose some weight) was a bit extreme (he is aiming for school leaver size). I do need to trim down, to help my health get back on track.
Well if my weight is to blame for some of my health issues, I’m willing to up my efforts by all means! It doesn’t mean,however, that hearing there are “medical reasons” for you needing to lose weight doesn’t sting….
That it doesn’t bring forth those feelings of “overweight couch potato,post baby damage, don’t look at me”craziness!
Well it does, it makes me crazy and feel even more unattractive than the bloating and water retention (initial reason for going to dr) has been making me feel.
I was feeling rather “woe is me” to be honest, until this evening when I fed Aidan, and like he always does he rubbed his hand over my face. I smiled thinking how the face I harshly criticize as MOONFACE brings this child so much comfort, how my hands which could certainly do with a manicure, are the very hands he reaches out for as he learns to walk, my thighs which I have “magically shrunk with my eye lasers” a thousand times are what he clings to for support and my stomach scarred from the c-sections makes him giggle endlessly as he attempts to blow raspberries on my tummy like I do on his… Aidan doesn’t care that I would like to go up a cup size, to him that’s where he gets nutrition and comfort, he doesn’t care that I want my arms to be more toned, he just wants to be held…to him I’m amazing, a super hero, funny and all knowing and it’s time I see myself like that too (minus the all knowing part-Although Rob might argue that I have this one down)…
Yes I’m not exactly where I want to be or “should be” but I should applaud my own efforts and not be so hard on myself…acceptance comes from within and THERE is where I need to channel my strength from, there and from the love I have and get from my two boys. My husband and son who love me crazy and all, and at all sizes 😉 mini, midi and grande loco 😉
So I’m ready to take on the challenge of getting healthy and in shape (both mentally and physically) for my own sake as well as for my boys
JustEllaBella