Why I blog…

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People often ask me (and fellow bloggers) why they would be so open with their lives, I guess everyone has their own reason…here is mine
WHY NOT!
If I was doing something shady I might not be as open about my weekends – seeing as visits to the park would be replaced with human trafficking and that would be oh so AWKWARD for you all!
But honestly, I blog for the mom who lost her child and who doesn’t know that it’s totally okay to cry and wish you were dead and hate everyone for a moment or a few moments (Even if it’s years later) and then be happy again.
I blog for the mom who has a kid after loss and is a morbid mess wondering when this one will die. I blog so that she knows she is not alone and knows that it’s okay to love again.
I blog for the little girl who thought she had the worst hair in the world because it’s not straight and can’t be tamed by a mere brush and now has no idea how to untangle her mane (loads of conditioner people)
I blog for the craft lover who wants to make things because making things rock and sales on stationery are SO GREAT! But DIY on a budget is even better.
I blog for the woman struggling to stick to a diet and exercise program and struggling to stretch her buck – because that’s me.
I blog for the mom  who is not too sure if she any good at this moming thing.
I blog because I’m an average everyday woman who thinks, hey “why not me?”
This is why I blog because I have a thousand thoughts in my mind and no filter.
I don’t mind that people know I struggle with depression and anxiety or that I would rather hide the dishes when you come over than wash them – because I’m lazy and I don’t mind that people know I’m human.
I’m fallible, oh so fallible, a little too fallible but I’m also talented (don’t you dare roll your eyes at me) and sometimes I’m funny (not when I want to be though *crickets*). Whether I’m at home eating simba chips on bread or I’m out eating sushi with rose water mojitos, I usually have something to say and this blog is the place I get to say it.
I can have deep conversations about socio-economic causes and even deeper ones about kiddies party décor.
Basically I love writing and that’s why I blog.
I love interacting with people and I love having people interact with me and this right here is why I blog… because: WHY NOT

– If you blog what is your main reason?
– If you read blogs what is your main reason?

poor friend, broke friend, happy friend

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I’ve had a few lets call it “financial disappointments” lately, be it people that don’t pay me for services rendered or contracts that fall through , the last few months have not been “party over her” at all.
I have to say I REALLY DON’T LIKE being the poor friend, you know the one who can never make coffee dates or spa appointments.
The smallest get together has to be scheduled two paychecks in advance and sometimes I have to take on extra work to make it work.
IT SUCKS!
Yesterday I had another disappointment, but I decided to decline the invitation to my own pity party this time around.
My mom told me the other day, you’re broke you’re not poor, that’s a big difference.
And she’s right!
 I don’t have money for what I deem luxuries but my bills are paid and  I can make a plan for other things. I have parents and inlaws that are more than willing to chip in if push really comes to shove and I have a bunch of things other people deem luxuries.
So what if I don’t always have petrol money – we have two cars and with way over 50% of the country not having access to personal vehicles, that is a big blessing.
So what if we don’t have  gourmet food in our cupboards… we never go to bed hungry and that is amazing
So what if we can’t go to the movies at the drop of a hat…we have uncapped Wi-Fi and DSTV , which makes up for that and then some
So what if we can’t go on luxurious trips, we have made our home rather comfortable and that is something I am very thankful for

–          I’m very blessed because Aidan is spoilt by friends and family, I help out a local spa so I get to be made pretty every so often and I get paid to do things I love; design and crafting. I’m really fortunate and think it’s time I stop looking at what is outside my basket and start focusing on what is inside : Amazing friends and family, my boys oh and Wi-Fi J

Our weekend in pictures

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My niece Taylor had her 7th birthday recently and on Saturday her mom hosted one of the cutest DIY parties I have seen in a while. She did everything herself, from the cake to the draping and it turned out lovely… LOOK

The birthday girl and her creative mom

Foodie Friday: puffed rice parfait

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The other morning I woke up wanting something fancy for breakfast.
Then I remembered that it was the end of January and lemon juice for my water could be considered fancy right about now.
But I am nothing if not resourceful and came up with a rice crispies parfait that was actually really yummy and would be awesome as a  sleep over breakfast 🙂

YOU NEED:
1/2 cup Plain/Greek yogurt
Table spoon of frozen berries (I freeze them when they are on special so I have for smoothies and such)
1/2 rice crispies (cause I eat children’s cereal….and win at adulting)





WHAT YOU DO:
– Heat the berries so the that it’s not all frozen and you have a nice warm berry juice to flavour your yogurt(you can add a drop of honey to combat the tartness)
– layer: cereal, yogurt, then fruit
Tah DAH! !!!
Calorie wise this is 140cal 🙂 (fitness pal)

It is your party you can splurge if you want to

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I like keeping an eye on the mommy wars, you know, so I know what to be outraged about this week (I kid) but it’s pretty hard to miss. Recently I saw a post on a group talking about how kids parties have gone insane and people need to calm down.

Here is my take on it… Have you been A. asked to host said party B. Is said party affecting you in any way shape or form (annoyance doesn’t count) C. Do you not have a life?

Ask yourselves those questions and then please take to social media so I can read your stance on how other people raise their kids and spend their money.
And talking about starving children and spoiling kids isn’t a good argument because quite frankly you don’t know how the hosts spend every other cent or every other day so CHILL hehehe.
Disclaimer: I really don’t think it is the best idea to break the bank on a party, what is the use in entertaining a bunch of toddlers for the day and not being able to afford the bare necessities the rest of the month? I’ll admit I do roll my eyes at some parties, maybe it’s because I can’t afford to hire out wedding venues for 4thbirthdays or shut down an amusement park for the day. (hehehehe jelly much) I’m human so yes I do sometimes think “sheesh overkill” but at the end of the day, it is really is none of my business.

I do love looking at party pics though LOVE IT and honestly I’m way more into looking at table settings than I am into looking at the actual birthday boy or girl (apart from looking at their oufit) YES I AM STRANGE.
I like parties, I like themes. I like matching things to things and I know I’m probably one of those annoying pinterest  moms but I honestly don’t mind… I like spoiling Aidy and making things (on a budget) way too much to care.
In general people are always talking about how kids parties are out of control these days but I beg to differ.
Yes the addition of social media means we can now see parties we weren’t invited to (hehehe) and pinterest means that our cupcakes can now match our décor BUT there have always been “those moms”

Who do you think made those clowns with  hats made of sweets precariously dangling off ice-cream cones ? or the scooped out oranges filled with jelly.
Come on now, don’t preach about keeping it simple when you clearly remember the brigade of bargain store Barbies plunged into dress shaped cakes and the crepe paper streamers lining the walls.
Yes we have become more sophisticated with bunting and themed food and and and… but at the end of the day not that much has changed
It’s all about having fun and celebrating the birthday boy/girl in the way YOU WANT TO… if you like simple cake and tea or an all out circus act it should really be about what the family wants (and can afford)

Just today I spoke to two friends, a cousin and my sister about their kids’ upcoming birthdays, YES they are all more excited than the kids but hey WHY NOT! With all the late nights and  body fluids and constant cleaning, why cant we have a party for goodness sake….PASS THE  GLITTER, I’m going in! 


PICTURES FROM AIDAN’S FIRST PARTY: cause his second was a bit of a bust


Tiny Superheroes and other Oh!Boy stuff

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I thought I’d give you a little update on how Oh!Boy was doing
As you all (regular readers) know I started Oh!Boy last year to fulfil this dream I had of owning a “label”.
I wanted to do accessories for kids that were unique and handmade, something you couldn’t find in every second shop.

Since starting I have been blessed to be featured on some amazing sites such as:



Using Aidan as my muse I started out doing things like snoods,bibs and pj pants. This past Christmas  I did a lot of Christmas bags and my heart nearly exploded with joy from the knowledge that kids from various parts of South Africa would be opening an Oh!Boy Santa Sack on Christmas morning!!!

As the business grows I find that what I really love is custom gifts. Small batch or once off items that are as unique as the kids I am making them for 🙂 

My favourite item right now are my little Superheroes…

A rag doll dressed to look like a little child dressed up as a superhero, all miss matched but adorable – you follow me? 
I try to give the doll the hair and eyes and skin colour of the recipient (as far as my material choices allow me) and can even make them using a favourite item of clothing. 
The idea came about when one of Aidan’s friends took a doll away from him and told him “boys don’t play with dolls” That irked me because you guys know my stance on Aidan and toys.
So I decided to make him his own doll for Christmas.

And it was love at first sight: 

Although my first dolls have been boys, I can easily make them for girls too, because who doesn’t want a miniature superhero version of themselves?



Here are some of the other gift options I have been working on… 
To end off thank you so much for all your support guys 🙂 It means the world! and remember the name Oh!Boy when you are looking for a special little gift for the prince or princess in your life.