This is fair warning that I’m slowly starting to get annoyed and that if it wasn’t for my daily affirmations you might see me on the cover of a tabloid with an intro that reads something like “Fed-up bereaved mother been found guilty of killing ‘well wishers’ with household items”
The reason for my murderous rampage would probably stem from “well wishers” insinuating that I have somehow brought Logan’s death on myself.
I swear if one more person tells me to “look after myself THIS TIME”, “not to fall back into my old habits”, “look after THIS one” I am going to FLIP.
What on earth do people think I got up to while pregnant with Logan? Drunken binges followed by bungee jumping? I still miss him so much it hurts! how dare you insinuate that I didn’t do my very best to keep him safe!
Other people may think I’m being sensitive,but with all the emotional turmoil that comes with neonatal death I personally think I have every right to be annoyed. When people tell me things like:
– “Stop prancing around in your high heels-you saw what happened last time” (What the heck do heels have to do with anything, besides I was too swollen to wear heels last time and I wear heels like once a week this time-flats are just easier right now)
– “Dress warmer or do you want history to repeat itself” (As far as I remember I did not freeze Logan to death!!!)
– “Why would you wear black again, it’s bad luck, you saw what happened” (The colour of your clothes has no effect on the viability of a pregnancy, you are bad luck, GO AWAY)
– “Hope you are not running around like you did last time, that could have easily caused the problems” (Are you stupid? I spent all my time at work or in bed with my legs elevated? Run around? I couldn’t if I wanted to! – That aside blaming an active lifestyle for a child’s death is STUPID)
Those are just some of the comments I get! makes me think people are stupid and just like to hear themselves speak! Here is what happened to me:
I had A placental abruption which is a serious condition in which the placenta partially or completely separates from your uterus before your baby’s born.
The condition can deprive your baby of oxygen and nutrients, and cause severe bleeding that can be dangerous to you both. A placental abruption also increases the risk that your baby will have growth problems (if the abruption is small and goes unnoticed), be born prematurely, or be stillborn.
Placental abruption happens in about one in 150 pregnancies. It’s most common in the third trimester but can happen any time after 20 weeks.
I DID NOTHING TO CAUSE THIS AND DO NOT APPRECIATE INSINUATIONS TO THE CONTRARY!!!
Okay, vent over, I know most people are just trying to help, and everyone has a foot in mouth incident now and again (I have too, oh so many times) but hopefully at least one person who stumbles across this post will think twice before giving others “advice” that hurts more than it helps
