Sometimes I interview myself…mainly because I can

So I have been interviewing a bunch of mom’s who blog recently and thought it would only be right if I answered the questions myself so here goes:
-What do you do when not blogging?
I work  in the newspaper industry, I take pictures, I craft, but mostly I hang out with my two favourites…Rob and Aidan

-What made you decide to blog?
When I made the move from full time reporter to working on the design side of things I knew I would miss writing so I started the blog so I would have a place to put my thoughts…Also I used to blog as a reporter and missed it.
-What was your concept your blog?
I have my photography at mybutterflylens but over here it started out being mostly fashion and events, but as I changed the blog changed with me and now I think I have 5 main sub categories: Weekend in Pictures, Being Mom, Crafts, Interesting people and Fashion (this includes hair and beauty) I always wanted to journal my journey to being a exercisy type but since that journey is still to be embarked upon I haven’t blogged about that, hehe…
-Did you find yourself nervous at prospect of letting people into your life in this way?
It’s weird I see myself as a private/shy person and I think the blog gives me a fake sense of security…it never feels like people I know read it so it doesn’t matter, hehe…you should see my shock when people comment.
-Do you ever worry that your kids will be like “mom why are you exposing my life?” 
I made a conscious decision to only be very open about him while he is still little…but the older he gets the more I want to protect him and his privacy. But for now I put a lot of safety measures in place in real life but on the net I’m like every other proud mom who just wants to brag with their baby every now and again.
-Does your family read your blog?
I’m always surprised at who reads my blog, according to stats, most readers aren’t even from South Africa…my family only really read when I tell them I mentioned them, I think I talk to much in real life they don’t still need it in writing, hehehe
-What do you hope to achieve through the blog?
This is really just soooo much fun, I love sharing places and things and especially the how-to’s. My blog is a hobby and I wrote it religiously when the only person that read was my husband and like two friends and I will continue to do so because it’s fun….But I must admit I get a real kick out of people commenting and telling me they see something the way I do 🙂
-What do you think about the blogging culture in South Africa?
All I know is that I’m still small potatoes, compared to the rest of SA but hey SA was small potatoes until recently and suddenly blogging is big in the country and it’s great because I LOVE reading about other people’s lives… I’m a legit stalker like that 
-What do you think makes for a “good blog”
I love good pictures and funny honest writing. I would go back to a blog if it has that

-How do you personally measure success in the blogging world
I think the day a pr company sends me something more than a press release I’d be like, whoa go me! hehehe, but seriously  I think everyone measures success differently, to me it’s like if I can keep my loyal readers entertained then I win, hehehe. 

That awkward moment, when you catch yourself being a b*%ch

Social media can diminish your happy, it can  be really  bad for your self esteem…seriously it can, there is always someone on holiday on some tropical location while you drag yourself out of bed and feel like you should be a honorary Polar Bear Plunger just for making it to the shower.


There is always going to be someone with the cutest short haircut just as you decide to grow yours out, or someone who looks amazing with long hair just after you did the big chop.
Everyone seems to be on some sort of diet and exercise kick and you find yourself eating a chocolate chip cookie with the same sort of rebellious shame you would see from a 15-year-old smoking behind the school tennis courts.
I never saw myself as a bitchy person, I can be happy for others and usually I am, so I was very surprised to find myself eye rolling at other peoples statuses…Ohhhhh you got ANOTHER pair of shoes that could pay for food for a family of five for the next three months, good for you. Or ohhhh another night out and now you don’t know how you are going to face the day in the wake of three bottles of wine… “Wait let me take a selfie”… so you can see the worry in my eye….
I even found myself feeling envious of other peoples entrepreneurial spirit…THAT is when I knew there was something up. I usually get quite a kick out of people succeeding in small business so I knew I was not being myself.
No jinne Eleanor pull yourself towards yourself and get over yourself…hehehehehe
I realised that what was wrong with this equation was not other people, they were just living their lives, being them and since I was never mad about that before – not in the slightest – something must be up with me.
I realised that it is very difficult to be happy for others when you are not happy for yourself. But why wasn’t I happy?
On paper things seem good, a great family, amazing friends…not to mention I share my life and home with two handsome men who think I’m the bees knees… what is up? and then I realised I have been existing not living. I’ve been so caught up in the day to day drudgery of life that I forgot to actually LIVE life.
Living with clinical depression I am used to slumps. For days on end  I will just feel so inconsolably sad that I just get used to it.
But since I decided to live  medication free as much as possible I have been on myself to get my mindset right . . . So that is what I have been doing the last few days and I found being in the moment and doing what I love  made it easy to be happy which in turn makes it easy to be happy for others.

I’m happy for the girl going on her trip because I remember how she had dreamed about it. I think the girl getting into shape looks amazing (should probably get some tips) The one who parties all the time kinda reminds me of my early 20s self and the person with the blossoming new business can now employ others and that is great…. Sometimes you kinda have to admit that you are being a bitch, laugh at yourself and realise it’s not about the hand you are dealt, it’s about how you play your cards 🙂

Here’s to remembering, other’s success is not your failure!

So I’m back from feeling like death with some great news…

I’ve been in bed sick since last Thursday, there has been a bug going around and you know I’m not one to be left out, hehe…
Seriously haven’t felt so bleugh in ages…and I’m yet again reminded that being sick as a singleton is nothing compared to being a sick mom….kids just don’t get it

On to my good news…You guys know how I love making things especially organic body scrubs . . . well a brand new spa has opened in my home town of Uitenhage and guess what. . .  they will be stocking my scrubs…whoop whoop yeah me 🙂

That’s right my scrubs are now available at Beauty with a Difference Spa in three variants…
Cinnamon Spice (Cinnamon is said to have antiseptic properties)
Vanilla Late (A coffee based scrub – coffee is believed to be both an anti inflammatory and reduce appearance of cellulite)
Ginger Choc (Ginger for its antiseptic properties and chocolate which is believed to increase blood flow)

I’ve been having a blast working with Anestachia from  Beauty with a Difference Spa as she is an absolute honey and also the talent behind my pretty new lashes and my “adventurous” new nails…

Check out her Spa if you are in the area as she has some great opening specials ALSO you can buy one of my scrubs, hehe…

Photo: look who is sporting some falsies :) thanx Anestachia Forbes feeling cute, hehehePhoto: My version of adventurous nails, inspired by Jemaine Michelle Meyer Harker thanks to Anestachia Forbes

Have a great week all….

Clothing conundrum….

So an interesting thing has happened in my cupboard…. someone seems to have replaced my clothes with those of someone who is clearly not my size.

No I didn’t just pick up weight and now nothing fits (believe me I’ve been there) this is something entirely different. My clothes just don’t suit me.

I’ve been battling with weight gain after babies and diagnosis of IBS and also a liver problem, but through it all I’ve been managing to lose weight. Okay so it’s in drips and drabs with a long way to go, but hey I believe slow progress is better than no progress…

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A little bout of Emotion Sickness

On days like today I wish I could go into my old photos and pull loved ones out…I’d have tea with my gran, chat with my Godmother,attend an event with Mso, finally watch that Bollywood marathon with Kayla and cuddle Logan…I’d even let Rob’s dad tease me one more time…
If I had this magic photo frame there are so many people I would borrow it to, I imagine a queue out stretching those at the election polls . People eager for last chats,final hugs…it’s all so sad really.
There’s this legend  where a woman asks to have her deceased child returned to her, she is told that to have this happen she needs to bring back a mustard seed from a home that has known no heartache…. and needless to say she could find no such home….
Like I could find no such frame, the best I can do is remind everyone to have those chats and give those hugs to the loved ones still around….
HAVE A GOOD SATURDAY,remember to live like things can change any moment because they can

Ten things about me, blog challenge

Thought it’s about time
to do one of these filly outy thingies…Hope the bloggers I challenged will join
in:
1.What is your favourite tv show?
 I change this sooooooo often, I’m very fickle,but you can be sure it’ll be something funny…At the moment I’m loving Men AtWork
2. what is your favourite color?
Blue! I love all shades of blue
3. What is your favourite food?
I love brownies, good brownies mind you, not cake with an identity crisis
4.Who is your role model?
I don’t have one role model, it’s more like I admire people for different qualities, like confidence in one person and business sense in another
5. What is your favourite vintage find?
I have a polka dot clutch my late aunt gave me, it is a def fav!
6. What product is your favourite to make?
It changes a lot, but  now it’s probably play dough, it’s just so easy and so many variations! I can make glittery or scented and I have enough little ones to appreciate it
7. Vintage or New?
I like vintage things and new things that like vintage for that matter
8. What hair colour do you wish you had?
I want a goldy brown that doesn’t make me look washed out…one day
9. What is your favourite blog?
I have a blog list on here, but mostly I like blogs that show someone’s life-I’m a stalker like that
10. Which 2 bloggers would you like to challenge?
I’m going with local girls Salama @ http://sal-b.tumblr.com/  Odette @ www.osoinspired.com/‎  and Charlie 

Happy Monday all