I let my son play with dolls. He has played with dolls for years because I honestly don’t think it’s a big deal.
I let my son play with dolls and as of yet, his penis hasn’t fallen off in shame.
Mattel recently sent him Shine from Shimmer and Shine and he thinks she’s pretty cool. He says she’s beautiful and then wouldn’t shut up about all the awesome things she can do on the Shimmer and Shine show.
Shimmer and Shine is a Nickelodeon show focusing on a young girl named Leah Thompson who is friends with Shimmer and Shine, twin genies-in-training. Each day, the genies grant Leah three wishes, but they often make errors. Each episode features Leah working together with the genies to resolve, in Season 1 they are in Leah’s world and in Season 2 they are in Zahramay Falls where the genies are from.
Since arriving here Shine has gone for a swim and has had her blue hair brushed and styled. She has been restyled because he doesn’t like her jewelry much and he prefers that everyone goes around barefoot especially him. The Shimmer and Shine dolls go for around R269.99 each and they are pretty durable. I mean Liam dragged her by her hair, Caleb used her for target practice and Aidan had her in the bath and she bounced back pretty well.
Boys seem to play with dolls differently than girls do. The funny thing is that many boys are still not allowed to play with dolls because it’s so scandalous.
Personally I let my son play with dolls and there are five main reasons I do:
1. I have always believed in kids choosing toys based on their own preferences instead of what adults deemed gender appropriate.
Adults tend to give things way too much power. Oh no he is wearing pink, he is going to enter Ru Paul ‘ s drag race and do his brows better than mine and that girl playing with the truck is going to drive around killing men (clearly I don’t really know what people are scared of, but judging by how people want to hit dolls out of boys’ hands and then disinfect the whole kid, they are clearly scared of something).
2. I’m all for any toy that encourages the use of imagination.
Most toys these days have batteries, on-switches or wifi capabilities. Dolls are simple and require pretend. Pretend talking, walking, whatever is amazing for imaginative play and building their little brains. Also, I hate to tell you this “team no dolls for boys” but action figures count as dolls (don’t actually hate to tell anyone this). Ever wonder why people let their boys play with dolls as long as the doll has a weapon…yeah I went there…It’s messed up.
3. The “dolls make boys into softies” argument doesn’t cut it.
Personally, I believe we could do with more soft boys. We have enough butch guys treating women and other men with excessive aggression and “hardness” where do you think the #menaretrash movement comes from originally. Maybe if boys are allowed to “put a baba to sleep” and allowed to learn to care for a toy we could end up with less butch boys.
4. Making something taboo gives it unnecessary power.
I’ve always believed that making things taboo or forbidden makes it way more exciting. If you really have a bee in your bonnet about boys toys vs girls toys. Just remember that forbidden toys are way more exciting than their forced counterparts. Just let them play with the toy and get over it. Kids are known for getting bored with something right quick, so instead of shaming your child for showing interest in something outside your comfort zone just let them hug Barbie and move on.
5. I can’t come up with a good reason for him not to play with dolls.
When Aidan asked for a doll I could not think of one reason to give him as to why he couldn’t have one. Saying it was too girly sounds like I have a problem with girly, like girly was an awful thing to be. Which it’s not. I’m girly. I overheard Aidan and a friend just this weekend. He said he wanted to get lip balm from me and his friend asked if lip balm wasn’t for girls, his response was; “boys have lips too don’t they”. My child sees men and women as equal and I am not going to be the one who teaches him that men are from Mars nonsense.
Do you let your boys play with girl toys? Or like Luchae talks about on her blog today; let your girl play with boy toys?
I’m giving away a Shimmer and Shine toy follow the prompts below and your little girl or little boy can walk away with their own little Princess Samira. Winners announced July 20
PS. Luchae has a prize on her blog as well and following her gets you an extra entry on my competition and the other way around…