My niceness is not a weakness

What do you classify as your weakness?

dealing with anxiety

Sometimes adulting is hard, people are idiots and being nice isn’t all that easy anymore.

I strive to be nice though, in a world where common courtesy is becoming a long lost commodity , being nice is practically a super power.

Smiling at a snarky cashier or not getting too worked up when someone is a gigantic jerk, that takes skill.

For the most part I forgive easily and I move on quickly… many see this as a weakness, I don’t.

It takes a whole lot of strength to “suck it up”.  I’m no angel, I have people I vent to and I make up revenge sequences in my head and recoil in horror when the perfect comeback comes to me a day later…MAAAAN! I should have said.

But for the most part I’m okay being a nice person.
This is why I don’t become jaded…. I cry, I stomp my feet, I get upset in the moment and then I move on…

I’m not a complete dits so I realise so and so had no right to speak to me like THAT but hey maybe she’s having a bad day, maybe she just got awful news, maybe she’s just a b&*ch.

The thing is, I’m not letting anyone steal my joy! There is so little joy to go around, I refuse to let go of mine

Four women in my life each have a saying that comes to mind when people are being jerks…

1. MY LATE GOD MOTHER – OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS OF YOU ARE NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

2. MY LATE GRAN – DON’T FILL THE TRUNK OF YOUR HEART WITH OTHER PEOPLE’S BAGGAGE

3. MY MOM – YOU CAN’T CONTROL WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU ONLY HOW YOU REACT TO IT

4. MY BESTIE – THIS TOO SHALL PASS

*Disclaimer, I can be a royal biatch if anyone tries to hurt those I love though, ROYAL

8 thoughts on “My niceness is not a weakness

  1. Sharon says:

    Love this. So true!
    My husband is a proud believer in friendliness costs nothing, it’s been his mantra and has rubbed off on me and our children too.
    I think it’s a great quality to have.

  2. Faziela says:

    This is sooooooooooo true! I’m precisely the same, and I realized that you get better results when you try to kill with kindness.

    To the extent that I once had a girl want to beat me up in high school cause I was too nice, she didn’t deal too well when I approached her and told her to get it over. She stomped her feet, shouted some profanities, called me a coward and walked away.

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